Biases?

We come across a lot of buzz around Gender diversity nowadays ? 

Is diversity only Gender .I think much beyond that .Experience diversity , Age Diversity and cultural/thought diversity to me are equally important.

And if you get that in Gender mix in the team. even better . However it is great to look at examples of biases in our mind which really accentuate how we as a society are . In a recent trip to a safari, someone in the crowd after seeing many animals including deers/ elephants/peacocks and a variety of birds but the tiger was extremely dissapointed.I am not sure that this should be termed as a bias as animals are the bottom of food chain for many and least of world problems. But why is a tiger viewing a bigger achievement than the mighty elephant or the swift deer or the most colorful peacock.

I think it's a world of thought and skill diversity. Everyday if you need to learn you need to have not only your experiences be the teacher but also of others.Where else to find a life to learn than those coming from a different background.

A real example : Compare me with my wife and my sister, Both from same gender.. I would be 60% like my wife and 40% like my sister.. So no two women are alike, nor are siblings.. so it's people at the end of the day. Each one is different . 

I am the strongest cheerleader for equal women rights. Proud father of a daughter but would not want my daughter to have benefit over another person's son just because she was born as a girl.. I route for all kinds of inclusivity. 

But then we are tackling problems of violence ,bias,unjustnessness and what not? Do I have a solve or just sermons? 

I belive good sarcasm is the answer to lot of problems in the world today.If we could be taught sarcasm and light headedness in school , I feel each Gender will come out more rounded and tackle real life problems with ease.Nothing is hard hitting if you are a trampoline! Come bounce off...

12 Angry men

One of the best movies ever , far away from comedy genre but some super comical in bits and pieces

1.       How come you are the only one in the room who wanna see exhibits all the time

2.       This is not the knife you don’t remember ?

3.       Stop being a kid will you ? what do you mean ? What do you think I mean K I D kid

4.       Lets run it up the flag pole and see if somebody salutes it

5.       Why should he lie whats he gotta gain ? Attention maybe ! you keep coming up with these bright sayings why don’t you see them to a paper ? they pay 3$ a piece

6.       I know him : The kid don’t even speak good English ! The kid doesn’t even speak good English 

7.       I am waiting the seconds hand to come to 60

8.       I was thinking we should go for another vote . and ya maybe we can follow it up with a little dancing and refreshments

9.       Its gonna rain ! how did you figure that out killer

2 awesome dialogues

Suppose you were on trial .. I don’t suppose  but suppose you talk us all out of it and the kid really did knife his father

I’ll kill him I’ll kill him : You really don’t mean you’ll kill me 

Is abortion an option ??

A woman went to a Gynaecologist with a problem :

'Doctor, I have a serious problem and desperately need your help! My baby is not even 1 year old and I'm pregnant again. I don't want kids so close together.'

So the doctor said: 'Ok and what do you want me to do?'

She said: 'I want you to end my pregnancy, and I'm counting on your help with this.'

The doctor thought for a little, and after some silence he said to the lady: 'I think I have a better solution for your problem. It's less dangerous for you too.'

She smiled, thinking that the doctor was going to accept her request.

Then he continued: 'You see, in order for you not to have to take care of 2 babies at the same time, let's kill the one in your arms. This way, you could rest some before the other one is born. If we're going to kill one of them, it doesn't matter which one it is. There would be no risk for your body if you chose the one in your arms.'

The lady was horrified and said: 'No doctor! How terrible! It's a crime to kill a child!'

'I agree', the doctor replied. 'But you seemed to be OK with it, so I thought maybe that was the best solution.'

The doctor smiled, realizing that he had made his point.

Love

It felt just like it was eight years ago on April 3 2003 when I finally said “something” to “somebody” ... This time I saw her in the metro she climbed at my station , I tried to get a closer look but I couldn’t , I had my doubts she could be the same girl , no she wasn’t; my heart skipped a beat …

I made up a whole dialogue to say if she gets down at my station but she did not.. That’s it.. the moment was lost…

I had seen PS I love you yesterday and though I am way past my teens in some ways I am still a teenager..where I fall for stuff as fast … I would have approached a girl for the first time ( post April 2003) for sure, but well I din get a chance..
It’s just like the “breeze begins to flow” and your imagination begins to run in all directions… After writing this maybe I am considered as a very “filmy” person but I do believe in love at first sight.. I had it eight years ago.. I had it today but I lost her in the rush.. Hope I find her again and u know wat ; I am gonna approach her :):) sometime…

This is a totally different day and I am writing this but I don’t know why is it this a continuation of the previous writeup but it is .. Maybe because I continue with my love theory ahead in this blog.. well I fall in love with things very easily -the nature, my job , people around me but well not with all women though.. ; music -- sends chills down my spine , makes me nostalgic, inspires me , wants me to do more with each moment, live life more..

I watched this movie PS : I love you and I fell in love with this movie and Hillary Swank just like I did with Notting hill and Richard gere or with Remember the Titans and Denzel Washington… and n no of other movies, well I dunno if I am gullible easy to fool but I am always in love with one thing or the other…. And when I am not I feel empty..

I never write down a blog entry on one day this one is a mix of three totally different days. The last one being today..I love reading what I had written earlier and adding to it.. This week I fell in love with RED and Mary louise Parker and Bruce willis , Also with Revolver and Jason Statham and finally with Bob Marley and “Bum Bholey Natha”..,.

And here it is a set of Random entires added to a blog entry… This is a literary disaster I know but one milestone among many which when looked back would make me smile…

A Disappointment ??

daddy mujhse bola…tu galti hai meri…tujhpe zindgaani…guilty hai meri…
saabun ki shakal mein…beta tu to nikla keval jhaag..jhaag… jhaag… bhaag…
bhaag bhaag… bhaag bhaag…bhaag bhaag… bhaag bhaag…
Oh by God lag gayi…kya se kya hua…dekha to katora…jhaanka to kuan…
piddi jaisa chooha…dum pakda to nikla kaala naag…naag… naag…. bhaag…


Well very funny and nice song but if we relate to it , its just an instance being narrated of how we face a lot of rejections and disappointments in life.. If one does not have the capability of taking a loss with courage, then one cannot enjoy a win..
We are always taught to win but are never taught cope up with disappointments in life, in relationships… In the very fast world we focus on ourselves so much that we forget to empathise.. we may deliver long sermons on empathy but when its our turn we simply ignore it… We name relationships from the beginning and hence increase expectations and when they are not met , we face disappointment..

I think its very important to have proper methodology to make people tough emotionally more than physically,, Its been a rollicking ride the last two years, a lot of learning on the professional front but moreover so on the personal front , I have learned to keep emotions at bay now.. not the best of ideas I know but that’s what keeps me going as of now…

Happy mothers day

They say if we clone hitler and put him under different external environment from what he would have lived in as a kid he would not grow up to be a dictator, A person is a product of his experiences and who is more important in formulating these experiences than our parents , especially the mother. The role of a father is a support function to assist the mother in creating a stimulating environment for the growth of the kid( Taking nothing from the father away , but I think the mother has a far more important role to play in overall development of the kid.

When I was a kid I was always instigated to come first, fight it out, never give up , fight every adversity , never say no, be empathetic towards other human beings and animals. I did not realize how this became a part of my personality and I now appreciate the efforts my mom took to always correct me by going however far she can.

I remember the n no of conflicts when I had my own value system developing and there were differences between mine and hers, still there are and well I always had a middle path or my path :) but then a mothers' opinions are always very honest and she would have no bias and say it right from her heart, and as we know the heart pumps the blood to the brain to make it work well , it's much stronger and there is no better source of opinion..

I would have written books on this but I think we all know what I have to write, and their would be redundancy … I just want to wish all mothers a very happy mothers day on this day and keep up the good work..

What should i be paid

i work thrice as hard and have 5 times the productivity and also work 3 hours etc than an average worker who works 9 hours on atleast three of the days of the six days our office is open.. an average worker in my office gets x salary with 1/2 my qualification + adding brand value attached to me due to my college .. What should be my salary.. hehe i am not looking for an answer lol... i know the answer, well i just want others to know it as well...